Hello friends...Happy New Year to all Visitors, hope this year will bring you lots of hope and new Paths. We all are doing the right stuff but are we doing the right stuff in the right way?? My Blog is on relationships. How can we make a strong relationship? and it should be Cool as well.

Here are some observations which I have seen in many relationships.

• First: Be together for the right reasons that are the priority of any relationship because in every relationship there should be some basic and core requirements/expectations for each other. Do not ever be with someone because someone else pressured you to. It is wrong because of Being together for reasons. To find out the base of your relationship first. the relationship looked good from the outside but it does not mean it is good from the Inside.
• SECOND: You should have realistic expectations about relationships and romance. You are absolutely not going to be absolutely gaga over each other every single day for the rest of your lives, and all this happily ever after bullshit is just setting people up for failure. They go into a relationship with these unrealistic expectations. It is bullshit.
• Third: The most important factor in a relationship is not communication, but Respect. What I can tell you is the #1 thing, most important above all else is respect. It is not sexual attraction, looks, shared goals, religion, or lack of, nor is it love. There are times when you do not feel love for your partner. That is the truth. But you never want to lose respect for your partner. Once you lose respect you will never get it back.
• Next Point: is NEVER talk shit about your partner or complain about them to your friends. If you have a problem with your partner, you should be having that conversation with them, not with your friends. Talking bad about them will erode your respect for them and make you feel worse about being with them, not better. Respect that they have different hobbies, interests, and perspectives from you. Just because you would spend your time and energy differently, does not mean it is better/worse.
• Fifth: Grow together, Learn together , Stay together, Love together. Respect that they have an equal say in the relationship, that you are a team, and if one person on the team is not happy, then the team is not succeeding.
• Sixth: Being a good or Special Friend. Talk openly about everything, especially the stuff that hurts. We always talk about what is bothering us with each other, not anyone else. We have so many friends who are in marriages that are not working well and they tell me all about what is wrong. I can not help them, they need to be talking to their spouse about this, that is the only person who can help them figure it out. If you can figure out a way to be able to always talk with your spouse about what is bugging you then you can work on the issue. Here we mean both and it is applications for both of them as well.
• No secrets: If you are really in this together and you respect one another, everything should be fair game. Have a crush on someone else? Discuss it. Laugh about it. Had a weird sexual fantasy that sounds ridiculous? Be open about it. Nothing should be off-limits.
• Next: Make promises and then stick to them. The only way to truly rebuild trust after it has been broken is through a proven track record over time. You cannot build that track record until you own up to previous mistakes and set about correcting them.
• Next: A healthy relationship means two healthy individuals Understand that it is up to you to make yourself happy, it is NOT the job of your spouse. I am not saying you should not do nice things for each other, or that your partner can not make you happy sometimes. I am just saying do not lay expectations on your partner to make you happy. It is not their responsibility. Figure out as individuals what makes you happy as an individual, be happy yourself, then you each bring that to the relationship.
• Give each other space: Be sure you have a life of your own, otherwise it is harder to have a life together. What do I mean? Have your own interests, your own friends, your own support network, and your own hobbies. Overlap where you can, but not being identical should give you something to talk about and expose one another to. It helps to expand your horizons as a couple but is not so boring as both livings the exact same life. You and your partner will grow and change in unexpected ways.

These are some points that I believe exist in every relationship. And it is our responsibility how to make a relationship strong and cool.

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