Hi Friends... Once again I am coming with new blog. This blog will tell you How we choose a boy for a marriage. Another observation around me and I can not stop myself to write this new blog. I am writing some points regarding to become a perfect son-in-law. Do not be think I am pointing someone, It is related to me and my thoughts.

As of now, we have already entered into modern civilization time but our thoughts are still not so modern and still following the footsteps of our elders.

I am a Newgen kind of person and personally, I do not follow anything until and unless it gives me something causing and something inspiring. Ya, I do not follow my elder's thoughts and views blindly because I can not accept fake thoughts and traditions. Just to give up because we are following something or someone is not my type. We all tried to prepare a girl for marriage and like this, we also want to cash our son on his marriage, at least in Hindu society. It is all about this. It is not funny. It is not silly So how to become a perfect son-in-law let is see.

  • Money, that is the first thing that comes on the list while Indians hunt for a groom for their daughter. Money! Money, because it ensures financial stability and also speaks for your status, but not your character, which obviously is not important. You were a complete mismatch but You have lots of money that are important. This is the first thing that will make you a Perfect Son-in-law. I have seen so many examples where the groom is heavily rich but asking for Dowry because ultimately money is important.
    For an Indian Society, marriage is nothing but a deal between two families. The deal, however, should actually be between the girl and the guy, but then who cares about their opinions or wishes? This deal involves gifting certain items (expensive, as we may want to call it) to the guy's family. People like to censor the word dowry and prefer to call it: Gifts. And I am also one of them.
  • Second: Big HOUSE. BIG PROPERTY. It is like an investment they had done throughout their lives and now they want a good return. It is for groom's family perception. I have listened so many times that outside India when the boy started earning, he can buy a home for himself and for a family but In India, we need a home to buy a Boy for marriage because of his Big property.
  • Third: How much do you earn? A common question for a boy This is the first question they will ask you even before knowing your name. Mind you, to this question the answer is only in huge figures and Answer, should be in 6 figure or maybe he has to follow his family business.
  • Fourth: This is the new item in the marriage business. Since people are a lot impatient now and unthoughtful, all they think and care about is themselves. They believe that elderly people can take care of themselves, and they don't need them unless they are ready to babysit their first child. Now that is thoughtful!
  • Fifth: You have to very good-looking either the bride is fat, fair or uneducated or anything else It does not matter. Because her father giving you heavy gifts so U can not choose your life partner for a lifetime. LOL. Well, of course. The package is more important than what it has inside. Now bride's side also looking for very small family means you do not have any burden of your sibling either like education or their marriage. Now Very mean people in the market, It means She promised to share life, not your burdens.
  • Sixth: Highly qualified = Highly paid Engineer/ Doctor - Yes yes! Artist - What the hell is that? Who knows them?? are they useful? In our society, a bad engineer is far better than a good Artist.
    Is there a reason why girls are married off at 24, but guys are usually advised to marry after 27? (Think!) India is still trapped in the vicious circle of gender stereotypes. It is not just the woman who should know how to cook and it is not just the man who should bear the burden of earning enough. Marriage is based on individual choices and their reasonable expectations from it without any coercion. The present-day woman is independent, speaks her heart out, and expects to get treated fairly. Similarly, the man expects a woman to support and encourage him in whatever he has.
    But in our society, we always face these kinds of things like other bullshit.
    But there are a lot of people who look up the great prospectus above these things. Opening up about your vulnerabilities, your expectations from the relationship, your liabilities, and your priorities not only help the other person to understand you better but also clears the air between the two. Love, understanding, trust, and sticking to each other's side during highs and lows are what keeps a relationship going. If your father taking 10 lakh rs for her daughter's marriage and she is still not happy because they are demanding more, this one factor and another thing father find good people, do good arrangement and because they are limited and they are happy. and I can say proudly I am not one of Them. Money is important I know, we all know but more than our values that are wrong. Marriage is not always about romantic stuff, Movies, Candlelight Dinner. It is also about the motivation and support that you provide to each other. It is not about Money and a highly paid job, it is all about love, respect, and Caring.

    Think twice to take Dowry.

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